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I'd temper the talk about the future based on Bart's current circumstances. If he is still in school, then the future is "out there" somewhere, but if he's graduated and has his career underway, then the future is much more immediate and talks about it are more relevant.

Since he metioned getting a house together I assume you two are working and possibly even living together. Lots of guys struggle with being tied down, grass is greener, fear of forever, etc. It seems like he loves you, but is content with how things are. Many couples living together go through this , especially if you are in your twenties. I've heard that from age 21 to 30 you both change a lot and I presume as you change your feelings about marriage change, too.

For myself, I don't plan to live with a guy until after I'm married. I don't want to be in a situation where the guy is on cruise-control about the relationship, while I'm mentally trying on the big dress. If I am ready to commit to live with a guy, then I'm ready to make the big committment as well. AND, if I can commit so can he, otherwise I'd rather keep things at a level we both understand.