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Originally Posted by 33girl
I had a "friend breakup" recently (which is chronicled, albeit discreetly, on GC) and people looking in on it would say "oh, it was over a guy" but the truth of the matter is - the guy was the LEAST of the problems - it just brought to my eyes that she was no longer the same person I'd been friends with and that she had never known the real me AT ALL, and when she DID get out of her bubble and find out who I really was, she didn't like me. That was worse betrayal than anything that could ever happen with any man.
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For me, this happened after all of this went down, and I tried to talk to her, and then I realized that I didn't want to spend time with her anyway, she was annoying, rude, obnoxious, inconsiderate to me and to my friends, but I felt like no one else could see it. After all that, some of them did.
In some ways, it is a worse betrayal. I'm sorry that you had to go through that 33 (and/or are still going through it) Friendships that break up for whatever reason still really hurt...
Maybe I wouldn't have come to the same conclusion if this hadn't happened... but I guess it did happen and I did see her for what she was. (a trashy boyfriend stealing hoe
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Originally Posted by Infamous12
I'm with 33girl. If they were together just 30 days after you and him broke up - It makes me feel as though they were 'courting' before you were even officially single. That idea alone just doesn't sit too well with me.
And then the fact that she ever so graciously forgave him for hooking up with you. 
It all sounds a bit too suspect for me. I'd chalk it up to just being cordial, in order to save face. Honestly, if you she was really your best friend - she'd never have been with your man...especially not that soon. Not to say that she wouldn't have those feelings, BUT that level of respect would restrain her from acting out.
ETA: And shame on him for poking between friends - so not cool. |
To both you and 33, I think they were courting before he and I broke up, a few sisters approached me about it, but I trusted them (
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That makes me feel worse...