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Originally Posted by lauralaylin
If I had done this, I'd have never gotten married. It's been 6 years since the ceremony, and I'm still trying to do something with my life. Maybe some people are unable to allow each other to follow their dreams, but then why would you want to be married to that person anyway? I think it's more important you find someone who is willing to change with you, that you want to be with no matter what. If you do that, the other things work themselves out.
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Well I guess it is different for everyone. As I said before, I knew I did not want to get married while I was in undergrad or before I got into my career or another stable job. The same with my DH. When he graduated, he did not get a big job offer and we thought it would be better to wait until we were both financially stable, settled, etc. When I said goals, I meant getting yourself established...not necessarily
everything you would like to do in life.
We have friends who married with no education, had bad jobs, ended up with 2 young children and are struggling to make ends meet. As a result their marriage is definitely in trouble. I think marriage is hard enough without worrying about fulfilling your basic needs.