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Originally Posted by phi8748a
Hey Everyone,
I'm in a fraternity and one of our pledges who is my lil bro in the house (doesn't know it yet) and depledged but didn't want to. He got a $400 speeding ticket and now can't afford the house thats why he had to drop. This kid is an amazing person who would be great for our house and we share many things in common and even though he says he will rush in spring there are already other fraternities after him. I've already told him that i would pay for his ticket but he has too much pride t take it. I'm having lunch with him in an hour.
WHAT SHOULD I DO?
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Hmm... isn't it a little late for lunch? That aside, are you absolutely sure that the ticket is the only reason he is dropping? You mentioned other fraternities were after him, so maybe one of them convinced him he should join another group next spring? If that isn't a possibility, what if the offer of paying the ticket came from a larger group of individuals? I know I would feel uncomfortable taking any money from a friend, and might still feel uncomfortable taking money from a group of friends. However, I think that there is a chance he might feel less guilty if he knows that it is a gesture from more than just you.
That's all I've got. However, as an advisor who lost two new members this year for financial issues... it is always sad when members have to drop, but sometimes you just have to let things play out. It is better to find this out now then after initiation when you have to ask them for money for years to come.