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Originally Posted by nittanyalum
Sorry, but IMHO, "Coke dates" =/= "interviews" (in the traditional sense)
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I'm just stating that an interview, which in our case had 3 parts - a coke date, an interview, and a signature - was far from a one-sided thing. It's not like we pledges had to show up, clean the house with a toothbrush and then MAYBE get the interview. It was definitely a mutual getting to know you process and you could choose your own questions. One of mine was favorite band - obviously if a sister and I like the same bands we're going to DISCUSS it not just have me say "oh. ok."
Not everyone is comfortable just going up to new people or having new people approach them in a free form style - interviews gave you a template and a reason to do so. I think as alums we tend to forget this - hell, at 18 some of those seniors were intimidating! I know there's people I might have avoided had I not been required to get interviews. Would I have gotten to know them eventually? Maybe yes, maybe no.
Until we radically change our style of rush and membership selection, how rushees and sorority members relate to one another - who likes who - is going to be the MAIN reason one girl joins ASA and another joins ZTA. To prevent those sort of "getting to know you" activities in pledgeship, or to dilute them into group activities where the quiet members never get to speak up, IMO completely defeats the purpose.