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Maybe they're just not that into you. Or he isn't, either.

There is obviously a balance to be held. That being said, they are probably taking HIS cues. If he seems unhappy/not satisfied/aggravated, they are going to treat you the way that THEY SEE HIM acting in your absence.

I could be wrong. If I am, then he's a wuss for not standing up to them. A real man will be able to balance the various parts of his life. If this one can't, move on. If he's "the one", he wouldn't be treating you this way.

Assuming you aren't being unreasonable with your requests/demands/etc., (you may not realize how YOU act when in their presence or how you sound when you talk about them). Remember, he loves his brothers (too??).

Lastly, if there is "simply" a hate/hate relationship between the fraternity and you, then you might have to accept it. I was fortunate in that my (now ex)bf's fraternity loved me, and vice versa. I was friends with them before my ex became a pledge/my bf/brother/officer, so that might have made a difference.

Good luck in whatever you choose to do.