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Originally Posted by DaemonSeid
I kinda see it like this:
Some of us have a 100% idea of what we want from someone.
We may mostly meet people who can give us 50% and we have to decide if we wanna work with that.
If we are blessed we find someone who has 80% of what we are looking for...we get with that and stay.
However....if something happens and we break up(especially if it's our <'our' being used to mean anyone!!>fault!)....the next person(s) that come along will only be worth 20% of what we had...because it's damn near hard to find someone right off the bat that will be close to what we just lost.
Agree or disagree?
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I really can't quite figure out what you're saying or asking, but whatever it is, it doesn't seem to be the 80/20 rule (which says 80% of effects result from 20% of causes).
In any event, I've never seen any point in trying to quantify something like a relationship -- certainly not in percentage terms. To me, it's a pretty simple list of criteria:
Do I love her?
Does she love me?
Am I happy?
Is she happy?
What commitments have I made to her, and am I living up to those commitments?
What commitments did she make to me, and is she living up to those commitments?
Besides, I've been around quite long enough to know that what I want isn't necessarily what I need. There are quite a few qualities where my wife doesn't fit what I always "wanted." I'm glad I didn't let that get in the way of marrying her, because I think I'm much happier than I would have been had a married what I "wanted."
Sometimes you just have to stop navel gazing and let life surprise you.