[KAPital PHINUst]

Originally Posted by DramaQueen42401

We have requirements. Most pledges complete them just fine. There are some who fall short and then their big just cries on the stand for them and get it waived

Let 'em cry till the cows come home. Save the sob story for someone else. The pledge can always re-pledge at a later time if they are deemed worthy of another bid.

But if the cause of low retention wasn't can the person do the work, then what was it? That's where I was coming from when I said find out more about them before they get in. Do they plan to do this for a while or are they just willing to be here and do this for this semester, since it isn't that complicated, or are they really here for the long haul?

If we are truly a fraternity, then we need to act like one. And one element of a fraternity is that not everyone is worthy of joining the ranks or will be initiated.

Simply put: Open membership means that any student from 18-80 can attend our recruitment functions and apply for membership without any regard for their personal status of characteristics. That's it!! They are not entitled to a bid, they are not entitled to be initiated. We do not owe them letters or membership simply because they applied, period!!

One thing I admire about the all-male chapters is that they tend to have a really good handle on how to filter out potential dead-weight and potentially problem members, (relative to co-ed chapters).

I think we try so hard to prove to the campus that we are not a social fraternity, we wind up not functioning as a fraternity at all, but more like a club. Clubs let anybody in, fraternities do not.

Let the prospective prove to US that they are worthy of joining, we do not prove to the prospective that we are worthy that they considered us for membership, and all too often we get that backward.