Friendsdiva,
I am so sorry you had a bad experience with rush. Especially with the legacy thing not working out. However, I'm a firm believer that "everything happens for a reason" and keep in mind that large universities are notoriously tough (even for legacies with perfect backgrounds and tons of recs) I think you should go into fall rush wiser and more confident - hold your head up high and know that no matter what, you are an asset to any sorority. Having been on both sides of rush myself, I can't stress enough the importance of knowing what your assets are - and believing that you will be a contributor to that sorority. A lot of young women come in with the attitude of "what can you do for me" but few go through rush communicating why they're unique, and will be a great sister. Mind you, I'm not saying go in with a mega "yeah me" attitude, but if you really believe inside that you are a special woman with a ton of great qualities, people will naturally be drawn to you and you'll end up happier in the end. I'm not sure if I communicated that very well, but if you have any questions you can always PM me. In any case, you know you have survived it the first time, and I'm sure that now you can really catch their attention. Fuzzie offered wonderful advice - definitely take it to heart. And regarding the dirty rushing - I hate hearing those stories, because most of the time it doesn't work out and the rushee is heartbroken and betrayed. What really sucks is that if someone takes you aside and says that, of course your gut instinct is to trust them. I would hope this was just one girl, but I'd carefully think about whether you want to be a member of that organization. No matter what anyone says to you, go with your gut. That's my advice. Good luck, sweetie.
