[33girl]

I'm not against "frilly" rush, but when I see chapters talking about things like $10,000 worth of gold fabric to cover the walls, or catered meals that cost a similar amount, well, you have to draw the line somewhere. The fact that that money could be used for the sorority's philanthropy - or hey, for a scholarship for a girl who'd be a great sister but can't afford dues - is what bugs me.

I was more responding to DGTess acting like no refreshments has been the downfall of the Greek system, or that the omission of them has a thing to do with bid matching or trying to keep things on a level playing field Panhellenically. (It doesn't.) I guess the thing is that her posts don't make sense to me, as she says that her chapter was never above 20 people and so (even in the 70s) I doubt it was a chapter with a frilly Southern type rush. I think we're all trying to help her understand that however she was rushed, it wasn't typical, even back then.