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We should all try to understand that when you come from a first generation family as OP does, you don't necessarily have that, "Dad/Mom, can we sit down with milk and cookies at the kitchen island and talk about something" relationship. The roles are clear-they tell you what to do and you...do it, game over! Having a child go to college is both the ultimate dream and nightmare for these parents, who want to see the child succeed but can't handle the child's growing social independence and differing goals/desires.
While in an advisory role, I met women who did not tell their parents they were in a GLO at all and handled it all on the down-low. If you (RedRaider) go that route, you need to be aware of the risks of hurting or upsetting your parents if and when they ever find out, and balance that against your wishes to be part of a chapter and forge your own way. I think keeping it from your parents could be challenging and create more tension between you and them, but only you can decide what is worth this kind of risk. You would have to make sure no sorority mailings went to the home address, and sometimes, that's out of your control. Be ready to pay for everything on time. We saw women who could not meet their financial obligations freak out when we said that the next contact would be the parents. Full disclosure with a complete plan in place (dues covered with extra job, grades not suffering, etc) is in most cases the best route.
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