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In response to the OP's original question:
Having been a brother of both all-male (A-Phi-Que) and coed chapters, I can say this much:
Frankly, I just bonded much better with brothers from all-male chapters. It just appeared to me that there was a much better and much closer social dynamic in terms of bonding.
While the two co-ed chapters I was part of I didn't have any real issues with their operation or why they did what they did, I learned that too often I butted heads with them, because what I thought was important wasn't necessarily what they thought was important (though they did institute a cross-campus candlelight march ("Last Rites March") for the pledges who were about to be initiated due to an idea of mine. It was done away with when there was no Spring '98 "line" and was never picked up. I mentioned it to some undergrads a few years ago, and they were blown away by the concept and wanted to get more details, but they never followed up.
Overall, there were 2-3 brothers I had a good rapport with, but for the most part I never fully bonded with the chapters as a whole.
Someone said that HBCU chapters function too much like NPHC orgs, but I think that is a good thing. Because they see the brotherhood as being equally important as the service they perform, and without that brotherhood, they cannot serve effectively. This might just be a cultural thing, but I fully embrace it, and it is for that very reason that I support A-Phi-Que chapters.
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