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First of all, no it is not low self-esteem.
Second of all, diamond engagement solitaires are an American convention. In Europe oftentimes it is a sapphire or other stone. (Anyone seen the ring Paul McCartney gave Heather Mills? He is worth 1 billion dollars....he could afford a 50 carat stone, and she got a sapphire.
But third, I think you should have what you want WITHIN REASON. Face it....this is something you will wear the rest of your life....it should at least be something you like. I also don't think there is anything wrong with "trading up" or even better, keeping your original and getting something bigger later. I'm a rock girl, for which I can offer no apologies. Actually the whole ring thing was kind of an issue with me and my hubby....I have a pretty nice ring by most people's standards, in fact I have had people comment on how big it is (which never ceases to shock me because I don't think it's so big!) But I still fantasize about something bigger. Basically I just like big chunky jewelry, and I think the most prominent jewel on a woman's body should be her engagement ring because it represents her relationship and that should come first. I think it looks tacky to have this little quarter carat stone and then have a huge one hanging around your neck, but that's just me. But if you refuse someone you love because the ring isn't what you hoped, that is just ridiculous.
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