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Originally Posted by northwestgirl
I guess perhaps the only thing left that I question is how on day one (where there was, I think we all can agree – more than the usual amount of women there) we were all guaranteed that if we maximized our options, there was room in at least one house for us.
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I think the important thing to remember here is that many of the women who ended up bidless (yourself included) made a choice to drop out of recruitment.
Maximizing options doesn't guarantee that a PNM will get her favorite house - it just means that there will be room for her to receive a bid in one of the chapters. In your case, you still had 2 chapters left - had you stuck with recruitment, you very well might have ended up in one of those 2 chapters.
I'm not saying, of course, that you should have joined the chapters if you didn't want to be there. Just pointing out that no Panhellenic promises were broken in your situation.
Also, something to keep in mind is that hurt feelings don't just happen on the PNMs part. The 2 chapters who invited you back liked you and were still interested in having you be part of their sisterhood. When you dropped out of recruitment, someone in that chapter experienced disappointment. You might very well have been someone's "rush crush"! When the active members saw your name on the drop list, it was an ego blow to them too. (Surely if you were someone's rush crush, she couldn't help but be disappointed that you'd rather drop out entirely than join her house.)
Hopefully everything works out for you at UW - whether you end up joining a sorority or decide to get involved in student life through other groups.
P.S. I don't think that anyone was accusing you of deliberately spreading misinformation - the inticracies of bid matching are confusing even to sorority members and alumnae! All you can do is repeat what has been told to you, and certainly no one would fault you personally for any factual errors in that info.