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Originally Posted by mscongeniality1
Okay, so I just got a bid (via continuous rush) to a sorority I really like. The girls were really nice, fun, and down to earth and all that jazz. About an hour ago, I called my parents to tell them. Now, initally, I hadn't told them I was doing rush activities because I really didn't want anyone to sway my decision. (I had a lot of friends buying into the negative stereotypes and one friend finally just said "You know, check it out and make a decision for yourself.")
My parents were...well, not excited, but not angry with me. My dad got really worried about money issues, even though the new member dues are the 2nd lowest on campus (and I promised to pay those on my own) and the house costs are probably half to 3/4 of what we're paying for my room and board now.
My mom's side of it was "Well, honey, are you sure you really want to do this? You always said how much you didn't want to be told what to do, how to act, blah blah blah..." Which, admittedly, I did...before I decided to take my head out of the sand and see what Greek life was really about.
They said that they'd be fine with it...but I don't know, they just really made me kind of depressed and unsure of myself. I think they're also worried that I'll be into the party scene and flunk out or something (I actually also have to keep a 3.5 to keep my scholarships, so if anyone wants to let me know if that's a realistic goal while being involved in a sorority, I'd really appreciate that too!)
I've got 24 hours to accept or decline! Ah! Help!
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Honey, my mother was a Debbie Downer too, which is why I didn't tell her I was going through recruitment.
As for Dad and the money...when it came to living in the house, it was cheaper than the room and board of dorms, it was safer than living in an apartment, and with the networking and leadership you will gain, it will payoff in the future.
For being told how to act and what to do, I didn't experience that. Sure we had rituals, we had days that we dressed alike, but it didn't change me. As a pledge, we had study tables, and being Greek typically ensured you would have a study partner -- if not in your house, in another sorority or fraternity. Panhellenic GPAs are typically the highest on all campuses, and there is plenty of written proof of that. And, there are plenty of scholarship opportunities, just because you are Greek.
Try not to get depressed. Talk to your pledge trainer for some advise. Sororities have plenty of ammunition to heed off the falacies that you are hearing.
BTW...congrats on your bid!