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Originally Posted by MysticCat
Again, though, this is assuming that he self-identifies as gay, whether way in the back of the closet or not. From what I have seen, though, I don't believe that he self-identifies as gay; I think he truly believes it when he says "I'm not gay."
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Agreed. In my optimistic hypothetical "coming out" speech I think am assuming that he would have some self-reflection that would require him to identify with being gay. I agree that in reality, he may be engaging in some denial games in his own mind to the extent that he can believe his "I am not gay" statement.
Also, to Sugar08, the risk of being lumped in with sex offenders is a danger... I don't think an insurmountable challenge, though. It isn't like he was trying to become part of an orgy or something beyond regular, gay sex... he was just seeking it anonymously, which is something I think any person might be driven to after a lifetime of denying yourself your true sexuality. It is just one more example of why homophobia presents unfair circumstances to closeted gay men.
I personally do not think the fact that he was seeking anonymous sex in a bathroom is all that odd (bear with me on this and read the rest of my post before attacking me) ... Heterosexual people (without horns or tails) seek anonymous sex, too, and quite honestly there are even "signals" used as well. I just don't think we immediately think about it because it has become (relatively) socially acceptable to meet someone in a bar, buy the other person a drink, etc. and then go home with that person. If the men who frequent the Minneapolis airport had a socially acceptable option to find sex in a bar with minimal judgment, who is to say that many of them (including Larry Craig) might be doing that instead of passing signals underneath a stall. Heterosexual people (from at least what I've heard) don't have elaborately signal-based bathroom sex, but maybe that is because there are other (relativelly) socially acceptable options.