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YOU GO, CT4!!! I'm feeling you!! I am really, really feeling you!!
Yes, although I have been hurt, I KNOW that I've done some hurting too. NOW I really don't EXPECT an apology from the ones who have hurt me. I decided that "life must go on" whether they do or don't. Of course, I look back and reflect on what coulda, woulda, or shoulda happened. But then I also think about what I could have done to PREVENT or AVOID the situation---and I'm talking specifically about past relationships with males.
For a long time, I waited for my ex-boyfriend to apologize to me for putting me through so much stuff. I didn't get the apology when I wanted it, but when HE was ready to give it. As a matter of fact, he apologized some 4 years later AFTER I had fallen in love with someone else (who is now my husband). We played these GAMES for years and when we were FINALLY able to sit down like adults and talk, he shared with me that he was not ready for what I was ready for at the time. That was a very POWERFUL moment for me. His words CONFIRMED my pain and brought CLOSURE to a long and tiresome drama. Did I ASK for that? No, but he was in a place where HE needed to apologize.
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