Carnation, you are definitely the "mom supreme" of this board!
Any new posters who've felt snapped at, her post explains perfectly why sometimes people get jumpy or snappy. Compare it to every time you walk into your home finding a window broken or a lock picked. It does put you on your guard for a long time.
Mikki - I don't think anyone is advocating "sweeping things under the rug" by not posting hazing or similar stories. The way I look at it is that's part of my mucho extended Greek family - and if anybody in my family is hurting I don't want to do anything to make it worse. I personally think we get farther discussing things like that in the abstract than singling out XYZ at Bigold State U if they are trying to dig out of whatever hole they've gotten into.