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go watch grey's with the sorority that invited you. you will get to know them in a casual setting-you are under no obligation other than to go, be polite and converse with these women. they may be asking more pnms than just you, in case you were afraid that you would be the only pnm there.

as to your male friends calling the sorority members for you, i wouldn't do it-have one guy call the member they know and then have the other guys mention in person to the members they know that they have a very good friend who will be rushing and then they can talk you up.

are recs. important at your school? i would not recommend showing up at the headquarters asking for a rec. if you feel you need one, you could call the headquarters and ask if there is an alumnae chapter in your town and get in touch with them. however, if you make friends with sorority members on campus, and recs. are important, they will make sure that you have one.

you don't have to mention what happened last year. if it should come up, just say that you were confused and dropped out-i think that everyone that goes thru rush can understand that.

don't talk about other sororities. that will always come back to bite you.

practice talking to people you do not know in class, in the cafeteria, in your dorm or apartment complex-this will help you in real life as well as during rush. the more you try to start up a conversation the easier it will be become.
have some topics in mind that you can revert to if you get stuck-movies you have seen, books you have read, music you like, concerts you have gone to, what you like to do in your leisure time, professors you like and those you don't.

good luck!