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I am so fucked. My sorority is falling apart. We're not allowed to put up any flyers or advertise at all for new members because of a paperwork mistake with the student organizations and advicing resources office, that wasn't even my fault. Thus, how will we get new members? Beyond this, I am actually now losing sisters. Remember the shirts I bought? Well people don't like them. And they refuse to wear them even for one day even though I told them that they didn't have to pay for them. Tomorrow is Greek letter day at UCSC and everyone is supposed to wear their letters to show pride in their organization. But Jen and Gail do not like the shirts, thus they refuse to wear them even for just one day. I told them that they could either wear their shirts, or leave the sorority. Now I feel like a big huge bitch. And a failure as president. I can't recruit new members or even have meetings in any place on campus, so there's no way for us to get new members, and now I'm losing members because I offered this ultimatum as somewhat of a test of their dedication. I realize that they don't like the shirts, but if they aren't willing to make this small sacrifice, how can I have any faith in their desire to make the larger sacrifices (ie time commitments, reevaluating behaviors in accordance with NPC guidelines) in order to become a functioning sorority? I know we said we wanted to "Never Be Ordinary", but I apparently did not make it clear what I meant. I meant that we would never be an ordinary sorority in that we would not adhere to the negative stereotypes (ie, sorority girls are ditzy or only accept people based on superficial characteristics). I did not, however, mean that we were going to be a group with no rules or regulations, and only a sorority in that we had a name with Greek letters in it. So now I am totally freaking out because my life is already complicated enough without this to deal with. I don't know what to do. What NPC group is going to want only four girls? How am I supposed to get more if I can't even let anyone know about my sorority? I feel like crap because I really love Jen and Gail and I know they have the potential to be awesome sisters, but I don't know how else to make them see that just because they don't like something, doesn't necessarily mean that it won't happen. I am all for having democratic decisions, but them refusing to wear their shirts indicates to me that they aren't willing to show pride in their organization, and beyond that, I spent a whole lot of money ($300) on those shirts, you'd think they would be willing to wear them for one day as a favor to me. Isn't that what sisters are supposed to do? I don't know if I'm even making sense anymore, I need to go. I would love input from anyone right now, I feel awful. Sorry for the cussing, I'm really worked up.
love, Corina
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