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Originally Posted by Senusret I
That's the thing.... other than receiving an award based on merit of some sort, I don't think most men want or need to be appreciated publicly.
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sistagreek, i really think they mean it when they say theyre simple like that.
in my limited scope of how men work (and men, being my 2 brothers, who are teenaged, my closest guy friends who are my age, ex bf's who were "generally" my age and older, and my female family members' SOs):
--doing something subtle and out of the blue they dont expect: one day i brought home a cherry pepsi for my brother - no big deal, but he was excited for the rest of the day. ok, he's 14, so what, it made his day!
--doing something that "them other broads" aren't doing: my mother was interested in this guy way back when, and he confided in her that he felt like women only used him for their personal benefit, and that all he attracted were golddiggin women that didnt care. so on his birthday, she sent him a bouquet of flowers to his house. his response: wow, that was different, all these other females either threw themselves at me or came to the house with a dime bag... sometimes you get tiref od the same stuff. well... 12 years later, he's my stepfather!
but actually, he says what REALLY made his feel "special" was when my mom made him a plate of hot wings and a pitcher of Kool-Aid for lunch. i mean he's grown and all, but go figure.
--doing something that's *gasp* not sexual: the past two dates i went on i wore jeans, sneakers, and pretty much covered up in a PG kinda way. partly cause i dont like heels and partly because i was tired of going out of my way (makeup, T&A, etc) for dudes. and the last dude i went on a date with was dressed up seriously - slacks, shoes, everything! it was so out of his element but he said that me not being "sexed up (his words) took the pressure off everything on his end.
now i dont know if any of this holds true for anyone else (maybe what i said was obvious - i AM a youngin after all) helps at all or is even valid to you sistagreek, but that's just my female two-cents.