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Originally Posted by bluemay414
I have to make a big decision about whether or not I want to depledge my sorority. They were not my first choice nor were they my second choice. I wanted to give them a try like everyone said to do. So far I have not felt like I am having any fun or clicking with anyone special. We still haven't gotten a big sister and noone has done anything special regarding 'pals' of any sort. We haven't done any fun mixers yet, even though the other sororities have done a few and they said they were lots of funs. I was told that my sorority has a reputation for being slutty and not the most attractive of the bunch, so most frats would rather party with the pretty girls or 'top tier' girls. I don't really like being known as the slutty dogmeat ugly group (even though I think we have some pretty girls). It may sound shallow, but if it isn't going to be any fun, and we aren't going to be invited to mix with any of the fun frats is it worth paying to join a group that is known around campus in a negative way? Plus having to deal with some of the reactions I get when People find out what sorority I pledged. "You pledged ?????" Oh......Silence.
Am I better off just staying on my own and meeting people through the dorms and other groups?? My Phi Chi group is really close and I do more with them then I do with my Pledge class or new active sisters.
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My advice
1) stop hanging out so much with your Phi Chi and start hanging out with your sisters and your pledge sisters.
2) stop worrying about what other people think! What matters is how you feel. Who cares what they think
3) (I don't say this to be mean) stop being so shallow. Who cares that you aren't hanging out with the "top tier" fraternities. If hanging out with the frat boys was the only reason you joined a sorority, yeah you should get out now.
4) talk to the sister who is in charge of new members and find out when you should be receiving your big sis. Some chapters don't do it right away. I don't know how long you have been a pledge but it can't be more than a month, give it some time. I know the local chapter of ADPi doesn't do their revealing right away.
5) EVERY sorority has a "reputation" on campus. Deal with it! It doesn't make it true. I'm sure every sorority on every campus in the US and Canada has women who sleep around. Hello that makes them human. They aren't wretched people who don't deserve friends. Should the whole chapters reputation be based of the few, of course not. Does it become that way, yes. The only way it's going to change is by members forcing it to change.
I don't want to be mean to you but from what I've read, I'd have to say that you are more interested in "appearances", than anything else.
Appearances aren't everything. Remember something beautiful on the outside can be ugly on the inside.