[SigKapChatter]

You said you didn't want to be judged because your reasons for depledging are shallow. So what I am about to write is not intended as a judgement but as true and honest advice:

Take a good look at who you are as a person. Is more than your reasoning shallow? Are you perhaps a chronically shallow person? (I don't know you, maybe you aren't, but it is good for any and all of us to look at our characters and see if the person we are is the person we want to be.) Let's say you are a chronically shallow person, hope is not lost, but it is important that you set out to correct it because a true sisterhood is a deep, meaningful relationship and shallow person is not capable of that relationship or any other kind of deep relationship. So you've determined you are chronically shallow. You have two options:
1) You depledge because it isn't fair to the sisters to join if you aren't going to commit yourself to being a true sister--one that is supportive and loyal. Or--
2) You join with the intention of changing. I know that my sisters have made me a better person. I see in each of them qualities that I wish I had as a person and I strive to add those things to my character. You could do the same. Do you admire the sisters as people? If so, then I say join and improve yourself.

So... Good Luck! And let us know what you decide.