[AOII BAMA MOM]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Actually, I consider it worse. It's 1000% characteristic of helimomming. If her daughter didn't ASK her to stick her nose in, why did she feel it necessary? I'm assuming she's got one of those daughters that doesn't realize that her mom is a helimom, because she's ALWAYS done EVERYTHING for her, and just doesn't know any other way.

My parents raised me so that by the time I got to highschool they didn't have to be worried about me. They knew I wasn't out getting into trouble, and they trusted me to take care of myself, and come to them if I had a problem. They came to a few music concerts and softball games and plays, but they didn't feel the need to be at every single one, and I didn't feel the need to have them there. When I got to college, they still came to a few of my events, but mainly allowed me my freedom. I called them when I've had job interviews to give me a couple practice questions or to run and idea by them for an outfit, but they would never DREAM of actually going to an interview with me. You can be a decent parent without being a helicopter.

Now, my own daughter is turning three. She came to me yesterday with a puzzle, wanting me to put it together for her. I started her out, by putting in a few of the corner pieces in, and then let her work on it. She stopped a few times, frustrated and asking me to do it for her...but I just told her that she was good, and she knew how and she smiled and kept right on working. I could have put it together for her, but what does that do for her?

Congratulations--- you sound like the perfect Mom. I am so happy that you were able to find time to help your 3 year old with her puzzle with having posting 9,275 times on this website.