[SydneyK]

I realize that you're wanting advice, and not wanting to be flamed. But you've given us so much ammunition that it's hard to be completely nice to you.

I'm wondering if you've heard that your sorority circles fat, and you're reluctant to participate in that. If that's the case, and you find out (for SURE, not just hearsay) that it does indeed haze in this way, then you need to do something about it.

Perhaps you've heard that your sorority is the only one on your campus that does NOT circle fat (this could be why your sorority is known as the fat one, right - none of the fatties would let their fat be circled, so they join IEtaPi), and you're jealous because you think it sounds like fun.

In either case, I think you're blindly believing rumors. Don't believe everything you hear, whether it's about sororities, fraternities, stock options, etc... Find out for yourself.

Perhaps you wanted in the sorority that your Pi Chi was in, and you were sure that if you wowed her, it wouldn't matter whether the rest of her sorority liked you, and that's why you wanted to know whether Pi Chi's had any say in membership selection. They don't. And for good reason.

Should you depledge? We can't really tell you one way or another. We don't have all the information. You're the only one who can make that decision. If you decide to depledge, make sure you're doing it for reasons that are real - not just because of rumors.

The women in your sorority gave you a chance... are you giving them one?