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Originally Posted by bluemay414
I have to make a big decision about whether or not I want to depledge my sorority. They were not my first choice nor were they my second choice. I wanted to give them a try like everyone said to do. So far I have not felt like I am having any fun or clicking with anyone special. We still haven't gotten a big sister and noone has done anything special regarding 'pals' of any sort. We haven't done any fun mixers yet, even though the other sororities have done a few and they said they were lots of funs. I was told that my sorority has a reputation for being slutty and not the most attractive of the bunch, so most frats would rather party with the pretty girls or 'top tier' girls. I don't really like being known as the slutty dogmeat ugly group (even though I think we have some pretty girls). It may sound shallow, but if it isn't going to be any fun, and we aren't going to be invited to mix with any of the fun frats is it worth paying to join a group that is known around campus in a negative way? Plus having to deal with some of the reactions I get when People find out what sorority I pledged. "You pledged ?????" Oh......Silence.
Am I better off just staying on my own and meeting people through the dorms and other groups?? My Phi Chi group is really close and I do more with them then I do with my Pledge class or new active sisters.
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She is back...and did pledge
So are you upset because your mixers are not with Fun Fraternities (you now call them Fun instead of Top Tier)? Or are you upset because you don't have a big yet (we didn't for about 1 month)? Or are you upset because no one has circled your fat yet?
Did your boyfriend tell you your sorority was slutty dogmeat ugly (he IS the authority)?
Tell me, how long have you been in a pledge? What have you done pro-actively so far? Have you asked your social chairman for a calendar of events? (they are published befor the term begins) Have you asked your sisters who are in charge of new pledges when you will get your Big?
It sounds to me like you are not making the effort to learn about your chapter and are relying on the rumors from outsiders.