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I second what KSUViolet has said, and in fact was in the complete situation as you up until a week ago. (I wasn't sick though).
I accepted a bid to my sorority and then was immediately hit with 'post rush blues'. It seemed like everyone else was getting along with everyone other than me, and was making plans for coffee and lunches and movies, etc. I really felt left out and had this wtf feeling, as I thought everyone would be bubbling over with love for all the new pledges. A sisterhood ya know? That feeling lasted ALL last semester and I was unsure even on initiation day! However, this semester I've made so much more of an effort. I go to the house to eat dinner before chapter, I've gone on a 'hey, you're the next victim of my getting to know more sisters campaign, wanna do lunch'? And immediately, I felt more included. Sisters came up to talk to me, I could call out more sisters by their names. I don't know what I was thinking, thinking I could bond with 100+ girls just by going to chapter and not even sticking around to talk afterwards.
So really, give it some serious thought. But if you really feel uncomfortable after putting a lot of effort in, you can ask to defer initiation at least. Don't give up without giving it your best shot. =)
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