I can understand how confusing it can be when you think about the prospect of either joining a small Fraternity or starting one of your own. It helped that I had joined a chapter of a large Fraternity that was shut down after the alumni group had to foreclose on the house we lived in.
I'm actually looking for people that are interested in starting up a 'beta' (second) chapter of my group. We've been at the University of Minnesota for 7 years and have pretty much been through it all...and are finally ready to spread out.
Feel free to email me if you have questions on starting your own group or if you're interested in learning about mine. It's called Omega Nu Alpha
www.omeganualpha.com
Good luck!
-Ed