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CT4, I agree with you 100% and I AM married. It just amazes me how SOME people have this GLAMOROUS idea or picture of what marriage is suppose to be. It doesn't take 50% from each party. NO, that's NOT true at all. What I've learned about marriage is that it's not going to be 50-50 all of the time (THAT'S one of the myths). Some times it may be 70-30 or 40-60 or ANY combination of ratios. For example, my husband is a very "hands on" kind of person. He is better and has more knowledge about things like balancing the checkbook, maintaining our vehicles, and dealing with our son. So, he basically takes care of that stuff like 90% of the time. I, on the other hand, am better with dealing with our daughter, dealing with teachers/school officials, planning and cooking our meals, keeping our home clean. So, I basically take care of that stuff like 90% of the time. Marriage is a WHOLE LOT of giving and taking. Some times you're going to feel as if you're GIVING more than TAKING. HOWEVER, both parties must put 100% (not 50%) of their HEARTS into it.
I feel that the ONE thing that really may have effected Michael's and Juanita's marriage is their COMMUNICATION. They haveto tune into each other on a daily basis. When that stops, that's when a marriage usually takes a turn for the worst.
I can't say who is right or who is wrong. I don't know what Michael did or didn't do. And I don't know what brought this couple to this point. But I do know one thing. Marriage is serious business. Sisterfriend, IT AIN'T NO JOKE. It takes A LOT, and I DO mean A LOT, of work because while the two are joined together in the sight of God, they are STILL different people. I didn't marry my husband JUST BECAUSE I love him. NO, NO, NO---although that's the MAIN reason that I married him. As a matter of fact, it does not even seem as if my husband and I are married. He's really and truly my BEST friend. We talk, laugh, play, disagree, have fun...the whole nine. But I married him for several OTHER reasons. I take my commitment to my marriage VERY, VERY seriously especially since I didn't see that growing up. My mom and dad were ALWAYS arguing. Back then, my dad was not a good husband or father. I watched my mother go through the cheating and all that. I watched my mother TRY to keep her marriage together. But my father's HEART was not 100% into it.
I think (or atleast I HOPE) that Juanita AND Michael realize at this point of trial that their marriage IS worth saving. It's a commitment (...for better or for worse....). Well, this is one of "the worse". Let's see how this stuff will play out. Personally I hope and pray that they work it out.
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