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Originally Posted by 33girl
Yes, they should automatically have respect, unless they do something to show that they don't merit it. Maybe the guy who "perpetuated a stereotype" gave $5000 to his fraternity's philanthropy or helped a brother who was in emotional trouble, but didn't feel the need to wave it around just so he could hear everyone say what a paragon of Greek virtue he was. As you said, be careful about making generalizations.
You don't bitch someone out in the rudest way possible who was simply trying to do something nice for someone, if they just didn't know the rules. Especially if the rules are pretty freaking ridiculous, antiquated and sexist to begin with.
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In regard to the alumni I made a reference to, I was not making a generalization. I was referencing alumni whose actions I personally know of. One example I will share is this: an alumnus of my chapter has sponsored the chapter's philanthropy for several years. However, he also tries to perpetuate poor conduct (including hazing) in the chapter - something the chapter has worked to eliminate in the past several years. As great as it is that he gives, it is inappropriate for him to perpetuate such behavior (I have approached him about it and he at least seemed to see my point of view). To me, good intentions do not make up for bad behavior.
However, I do agree that alumni should be given a certain level of respect until they do something that does not merit respect. I did not articulate that thought well in my previous post. In regard to the respect issue, you are absolutely right 33girl.