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Honestly, what you probably don't want to hear, is that if these individuals don't WANT to change, you may just have to wait it out until they graduate. Not knowing what exactly the problem is, it is hard to say whether the sorority is in a position to address the problem.
Is it a weight problem? If so, I think sororities should back off because that is a sensitive issue and trying to address it may cause that person serious psychological damage. Is it worth giving an individual a complex (or aggravating one that already exists) in order to not have the "fat girl" in your group? (by the way, the answer here is NO!) Maybe instead offer to go shopping with her -- nicely... as if you were inviting any other friend to go shopping-- and very casually give her things to try on that might flatter her body shape more. When she tries on things that look nice, make a big deal out of how great she looks.
Is it a psychological issue? Suggest counseling -- casually and sensitively. If there is someone in the group that has received counseling for whatever reason or went through anything similar, have that person suggest it in a way that doesn't seem like a demand. For instance, "When I was having issues dealing with stress, the best thing that I ever did was talk to a counselor. It's really helpful to talk to someone that isn't involved in your life because they can offer a fresh perspective."
Is it a personality issue? If someone is just annoying or whatever, that's not something you can usually change. Maybe make sure that at least during recruitment she is put in a position that minimizes her exposure to the PNMs, but other than that, just try to find positive things about her and focus on those until she graduates. This is kind of a life lesson, since for the rest of your life you will have to be around people you don't like or find annoying... might as well learn how now!
Please post back and give better clues as to what the image issue is... I think you'll find you'll get better responses that way.
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