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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06
You need to examine your reasons for wanting to be in a sorority. Let me be the first to say that whether you believe me or not, joining a sorority will not be the the magic fix for your self esteem issues that you seem to have from HS.
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Jocelyn really knows her stuff, so you should pay special attention to this statement. It's the absolute truth.
As a matter of fact, if you're an especially sensitive or fragile creature, sorority membership can
worsen any existing self-esteem problems.
If you are joining a sorority because you feel like it validates you, socially, you're in for a big surprise. Sure, you'll feel like the most popular kid in town for the first couple weeks, with all the big/little gifts and new member events and whatnot. But after the first month, active members stop fawning all over their new members and you become
just another woman in the group, and you feel just like you did before you joined.
This is a huge reason, in my experience, why more timid/unconfident women depledge. Girls that aren't as sure of themselves see this ceasing of the constant validation as a sign that nobody in the chapter likes them, or that they're an "outcast" in the sorority, and they get all bent out of joint that they don't have like 80 best instafriends, and so on. Even if they stay in, I've seen sorority women
obsess over whether or not they really "deserve" to be in their group, or have doubts that they'd still be in their sorority if they had to rush again tomorrow, or if anyone said anything bad about them while they were rushing, blah blah blah.
It gets better...
Even the best, most tight-knit sororities have their problems. Nothing quite deals a blow to your ego like running for an executive board position only to lose by a landslide, or actually being elected to a position only to receive the wrath of all the sisters when you screw up. To say nothing of the legendary crying/screaming blowups that occur in
every sorority house from time to time....
If you can't handle rejection or you have major confidence issues, you should't join a sorority. I know it sucks feeling rejected by a bunch of sorority women you barely know. I promise you it sucks that much harder when you feel rejected by those same sorority women X number of years after you joined.