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I know a lot of us have felt the way you do when we were new(er) members.
I would recommend at least waiting out this year. Maybe after recruitment, the new member class will be a better fit. Offer to come to the new member retreat or another event and get to know them a little. Consider running for a leadership position or something where you will work with a smaller group and get exposure. Tell the membership chair you want to help with recruitment. Participate in a greek sing or some other fun competition which will be fun and bonding. I found my niche by living with some sisters I didn't know that well, and we ended up having a great year.
This is not meant to be harsh but a fact of life: people are attracted to individuals that have something to offer. If you're a brand new sister and already skipping events and considering disaffiliating, why would they invest in your friendship? I'm not saying be fake, but if you go to these functions being the best "you" you can be, I think people will start to notice.
Don't give up - this is an emotionally draining experience, but it won't be any different in a team, club, religious org, etc. You just have to keep putting yourself out there! Good luck!
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