[cuteASAbug]

First of all take a deep breath. I'm sorry that this happened to you. Unfortunately, it's just one of those things that's a fact of life. I was initiated at the end of April, and I still don't have my membership certificate or member number because my paperwork wasn't sent in on time so I can totally sympathize with you on that one. It sucks, but these things take time. While you may not be in ABC's national membership database, you have witnessed their initiation ritual. This makes you ineligible to join another national sorority. If there are local sororities at your new school, you can join one. You can attempt togo through recruitment again, but chances are that 1) someone will remember you, or 2) it's a small world and is being made smaller thanks to facebook and chances are that someone from your new school will have friends in greek life at your old school and word will get around and it will come back to bite you in the rear. I know you did not ask for opinions on this next part, but I feel like I have to say this. You are at least 18 years old- why is your mother calling your sorority and the chapter at your new school to set things up for you? This is something that you should really be doing on your own. It may sound harsh, but keep in mind that the new chapter wants to get to know you first before they let you affiliate with them, and so far the only impression they've really gotten from you is from your angry/frustrated mother, which isn't exactly helping your case.