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I may be joining the thread too late, but I just wanted to add my two cents -- I went through ACC rush, but I know SEC rush well, having grown up in an SEC state, and it is brutal. I agree with everyone who has said that your daughter's chances of getting a bid next year at "top" sororities are slim. SEC schools tend not to be kind to girls who rush twice or to sophomore rushees. The question she needs to be able to answer, in deciding whether to accept the bid that is extended to her now, is: "Will I be embarrassed to be a member of XYZ house?" She has the advantage of being out of state -- she isn't surrounded by friends from high school who are competitive about what sororities they joined. And her roommate is just one person and one opinion. If your daughter thinks she would be embarrassed, for whatever reason, to tell a lab partner or a boy at a party that she's a member of XYZ, she shouldn't join. If there's no embarrassment involved, I would encourage her to take the bid, because if the girls are nice, she will end up having a good time and finding sisterly love. I don't know any girls who were embarrassed to be part of their sorority just because it wasn't the top one. I did have a friend at another school, however, who joined a house that was, unfortunately, known for being a crummy house, and her embarrassment did ruin her experience. If the house that has extended your daughter a bid isn't known as a crummy house, and the only problem is just that it isn't a "top" sorority, I think your daughter should be fine.