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Originally Posted by texas*princess
If they didn't like her, they wouldn't have extended a bid.
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Thank you, texas princess, for pointing out this obvious point... I actually thought for a second that I might have misinterpreted the comment. But yeah, they extended her a bid not even in formal recruitment, but in COB! They definitely like her enough to think she could be a part of their group. My guess is that those girls probably haven't given it a second thought that her hair color is different, unless what you are really trying to point out is an unwritten racial segregation issue... (I'll leave that out there, since I don't want to make an assumption out of thin air).
I guess the biggest part of what I don't understand is why any genuine, decent person would hesitate to pledge a sorority if they (1) wanted to be in a sorority so bad they would go through a second formal recruitment as a sophomore, adn (2) liked the girls in the org that gave her a COB bid (which you say she does). What else is there to consider, unless you somehow feel like the sorority isn't worthy of such a top-calibar PNM.
Bottom line: as great as your daughter probably is (I seriously mean this without sarcasm) several of the top sororities didn't think she was as great as other girls and the possibility of changing their minds to the point where she will get one of what would be very few if any chances in January to pledge is so slim that it seems absurd to give those sororities that much power over her happiness. My sincere guess is that your daughter will find out during the course of this year why she wasn't (a) invited back to pref, or (b) ranked high on bid lists. When she does, I'm pretty sure she's going to be pissed at the answer and probably will wish she took one of her COB bids because those girls liked her enough to extend a bid (even though they know going into it that they are not your daughter's first choice).
And by the way, the answer of why your daughter didn't get into these sororities was NOT because she wasn't from Alabama.... this may have influenced slightly but I have never heard of a voting or ranking decision where the state of origin was the deciding factor.
Apologies for the long post...