I'm so sorry.
And don't worry if anyone can figure out what school you attend - nothing you said has been offensive to any of the groups on your campus.
Keeping fingers crossed for you for COB/COR. If there are any chapters on your campus who aren't at total, its likely to happen...even if not formally organized. (Most nationals these days are really big on trying to hit total if at all possible...that whole "recruitment is year round" thing we have going on now.
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