[Forgetmenotivy]

Soliloquy, I am a chapter advisor from a chapter like you are describing Copeland. Plus I was in your shoes 30 years ago this fall as my chapter was also struggling when I joined and I had been rushed hard by Kappa Delta during the prior spring but they were at total and couldn’t take anyone until formal recruitment. When I opened my pref invites it only showed Alpha Phi. I was devastated but mainly surprised. I didn't know what to do. I didn’t know what I had done. Back then we didn’t have Rho Chis to talk to. I had and still do have so many friends in Kappa Delta. I don’t hold any ill feeling towards Kappa Delta. It is a great organization.

I too, sucked it up and went to pref. I gave Alpha Phi a chance. That was the best decision I ever made. I will never forget my KDee friends coming up to me on Bid Day saying how proud of me they were that I had joined Alpha Phi. They said it would be KDee’s loss and Aphi’s triumphant. I have been involved in Alpha Phi ever since. It was the best thing that could have happened to me at the time but I couldn’t see it at the time. When I went to Pref I listened to the woman that was preffing me. Alpha Phi truly wanted me and saw their future involving me.

If you take away all the letters, decorations, symbols, and accessories all groups are the same. They all have parties and socialize; they all have sisterhood and care for each other; they all do community service and philanthropy; they all have their successes and failures. Sorority Life is what YOU make it! I have proven that! I would not trade Alpha Phi for all the gold in the world now but I know it is hard to see at the time. Go where you are wanted and can have a great experience. I have had women in my 10 years as chapter advisor that pledge Alpha Phi, that thought at the time they were taking their second or third choice but if you ask them today they realize they really got their first and only choice for them. I have also seen women go where they thought they should be and didn’t find the treasure they saw during recruitment. Give Copeland a chance and I bet you will find what you were looking for. Don’t ever look back!!