Although I had dates who have children after this particular jacked up situation, I just unfortunately got intertwined with a twisted and foul person who I now hear is homeless.
The scenario:
I was in my young 20's (awhile ago...
) and I met this dude who played for the NFL--a relatively "(in)famous" player for this team. Anyhow, we dated off and on, and because I was a dumb 20-something year old, I did ran up under him. Call it the "groupie-effect" or wanting to live the Californian lifestyle on the red carpet at movie premieres, nonetheless, I was stoopid.
Now, he did not hid the fact that he dated other women, but I knew I had a chance because I was in grad school for my Ph.D. and surely brains overruled beastily beauties--or silicone parts. Was I wrong...
Eventually, he impregnated this women who use to be married to another much more famous NFL player that was crafty. Moreover, she was not African American and at that time, I had issues with that fact.
Moreover, I found out this chick was pregnant by seeing her at 9 months.
Needless to say, I was forced to let go. That was why the team lost the Superbowl that year because he couldn't pay attention to his job. He later got traded with lower funds because no money is guaranteed in the NFL...
As for me, I got my Ph.D., relocated and am married to a extraordinary man who does not have children. I am truly blessed.
If I was single these days, I would not date a man with multiple children--or who has a latex/durex allergy. I can see if the man was married and had a child then got divorced. I could see if the man has older children out of the house and is restarting. But I do have a problem with a "random inseminator" and leaves the relationship.
I guess, what I am saying, I looked for somebody who could provide be a strong loving relationship, not just a cute butt
, then went from there.