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Originally Posted by sadiemae
...My daughter's (I'll call her Susie) AU rush experience was also disappointing. I was Greek at a much smaller school and hope some of you can give me insight into where Susie's rush took a wrong turn...
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You did nothing wrong. You did everything right. Why did it happen? There will never be an answer for that...my daughter rushed 6 years ago and was dropped, and I still wonder why (she later pledged COB). You mentioned you went to a smaller school...it's hard to understand just how BIG a rush with 1,200 girls is. It is so big that groups have to cut girls for no reason at all, just to get to the number they're allowed. And sometimes there is no reason for cutting somebody. It's frustrating. Legacy? I don't think it really matters if she did or did not put it down. Most groups know that the big ones can't take all their legacies...it's a consideration, but a small one.
The only thing that I think she should have done differently is to return to the houses she was invited to. Opinions can change from one party to another. Rushees have to realize that when they limit themselves to just a few groups, the numbers are simply stacked against them. She had invitations...plenty of girls got none, or only 1 or 2. She should have gone. BUT...we moms hurt worse than our daughters! She will make plenty more friends at Auburn and who knows? She may still COB a great chapter. If not, she will still probably have a very successful college career. Auburn's a very friendly, inclusive campus, and it's possible to be totally happy there without being Greek.