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I agree with you about being direct in most areas of like, and for me, it's not even all a question of being entitled to have your concerns addressed, which I agree with; it's about looking kind of foolish when you have to get other people to address your concerns.
(I have some work colleagues who when they run into routine difficulties go to a supervisory employee rather than approach a professional colleague directly, even about issues that objectively defined solutions, like how to get the textbooks that you have signed out. Did they have a lot of success getting their problems solved by tattling when they were kids and never learn to work things out for themselves?)
And it does tend to be women more than men who feel like it's both nicer and more appropriate to handle things this way. It's usually not; you could handle things much better on your own usually, and I agree that it shouldn't be a reflection on your femininity that you chose to, if you approach people politely.
The danger though with a public confrontation with a group of strangers though is that you are likely to lose control of the situation pretty quickly if it turns out that they aren't embarrassed and don't want to mend their ways.
So there's some risk that the situation could escalate, and you'd be part of how this group made Greek Life look bad rather than the person who helped them stop it. You just never know in advance exactly what you are going to get, and if it's an image based problem, how the situation appears to outsiders should be part of the solution, it seems to me.
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