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Originally Posted by AChiOhSnap
I don't think there was a single NPC sorority on my campus that would have bid a married PNM.
A few years back, I was talking with a friend of mine (a member of another NPC sorority) and somehow we got on the topic of what we would do if we had a married PNM come through recruitment. Her response was something to the effect of "if you're mature enough to get married, you're mature enough to give up "the traditional college experience" to focus on your marriage." I really do think that there are a lot of sororites out there which view the "sorority experience" as solely the prerogative of young, single women.
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That pretty much sums up the way my campus was too. We had 13 sororities, and its unlikely that a married PNM would have received a bid. Unless she had prior connections with a group and joined through COB rather than formal recruitment.
From what I recall, it was unusual for a girl to even get engaged while an active member of any of the groups on my campus...maybe a handful of seniors did, but they were usually less active because it was their last semester in school anyhow.
However, that attitude wasn't something that was unique to sororities - it would have been unusual to meet a married undergraduate student on my campus
period. (Unless it was someone non-traditional...a little older, etc.) So, I suppose it makes sense that if married young undergraduates weren't represented much as a whole on my campus, they wouldn't be represented significantly in sorority life either. Commuter schools and/or schools with a highly non-traditional student body might be more likely to have a Greek system that would be accepting of married PNMs.
marriedPNM - have you started recruitment yet?