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Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek
o.k. I see your point partially, but I'm not totally disagreeing with you, but why get involved with someone and call it a relationship if it's not serious? I understand bad credit and money issues can become a major problem in a marriage, but I don't think it's worth divorcing over. It's like you stated for better or for worse. I mean those issues can be worked out. I'm willing to work through anything as long as my spouse would be willing to work with me. I can't do it alone.
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However, what is a serious relationship if you are unmarried--from a completely LEGAL POV? It is NEVER serious until there are papers involved. Not even temporary S-corporation partnership agreements can protect you from the wrath of divorce.
And you had better believe it IS ALL ABOUT THE MONEY in a marriage. Who brings it in, who doesn't, who has it, who doesn't, you are kidding yourself if you don't think so...
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Originally Posted by OneTimeSBX
to me, $ would only become an issue if he decided once we got married he would never ever hold a job again, or he decided to spend all of his $ on something detrimental, like midget porn or hot wheels cars.
divorcing due to money just seems so shallow, but that is just my opinion. everyone hits a snag, and hopefully if someone had a problem that severe, it would reveal itself before the nuptuals.....
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Financial trials are the number one cause for divorce. It make not be the inability to MAKE enough money, it may be the incapacitance [sp?] to KEEP that what is made for the household... They call it the "marriage penalty tax". Although unstated and unsaid, States and Feds do nail you when it comes to legally binding your new household finances...
I do agree one might see some things before marriage. Most do not. The biggest issue is to evaluate what you can--i.e. credit reports, financial budgets and plans, and how or what one spends their money on. If it is something insane like too many downloads of midget porn, that is one thing. But what if it is purchasing $25K+ cars every 2-3 years and not selling the old one? What if your mate purchases these cars, meanwhile, the IRS audits you and says you BOTH owe well over $50K? Then the franchise tax board says on top of that you BOTH owe ~$30K in payroll taxes... Then when you go to look for these "items" based on the required taxes collected, there is nothing to show for it...
This is a TRUE STORY...
And yes, it IS DUMBASSED chit like that that happens.