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I am prefacing this post by saying I am not trying to be snarky or get under anyone's skin. I understand that there are some upset people on here - both PNMs and parents and that I do not come from an ultra competive recruitment background like Bama or UGA.
Most of the venting and hurt seems to be coming from the alums, and the moms that have written the recs and did alot of the leg work. But how much of the responsibility comes down to the PNM to reach out (even if you are out of state) and introduce herself to the chapter. Especially in an ultra competitive recruitment. With things like Facebook, a few little exchanges between a potential PNM (obvi. before silence or no-contact rules go into effect) and an active could go along way -- at least get a name remembered, the actives talking about this really cool pnm that annieactive talked to and she is a 5x chapter legacy.
I also have been seeing a lot of posts about how angry alums are at the specific chapter for releasing their girls. But maybe the chapter had good reasons (not that your girls aren't wondeful -- i'm not insinuating that), but maybe the pnms weren't talkative (we've seen lots of stories about the mute pnm) or were braggarts (we've seen lots of stories about the bragging pnm) that may have rubbed the actives the wrong way, or maybe the pnm just got talking to 1 or 2 actives that weren't very good at rushing and didn't introduce your girl to enough people, etc. Bottom line is that you don't know what went on during those parties, you don't know how your girl did through the eyes of the actives, and you don't know what went on during ms, and you will probably never know.
And as my sister goes off to college this weekend (recruitment is deffered where she is going) I think how upset she would be if she didn't get a bid, and how mortified she would be if her rec writers continually bashed the system.
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