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Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek
Of course not. I wouldn't leave my spouse, ...but how bad does it have to get in order to take a break? A break to me means hey I'm tired of this and I need a break. I know sometimes we need to get away and say timeout, and that's o.k. but a temporary break as in let's separate for awhile and then reunite? It has to be pretty bad for me to do that.
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Well, one should not go into a marital relationship with assumption of requiring a "break" when things get "very bad". Very bad without the presumption of physical/sexual abuse and infidelity, is when one's spouse has a severe thought disorder causing illogical activities--i.e. buying a $90K vehicle when the couple does not have about $50K yearly... Or credit problems seem to follow along. Or one spouse totally losses a job and half the debts cannot be paid.
The marriage vows state these issues: Sickness and Health, Rich or Poor...
Many relationships START OFF sick and poor and the couple thinks that Love can win out. Most of the time, realistically: "When's the last time that Love bought you clothes... It's like that and that's the way it is..." (Run DMC circa 1984).
The issue is when we enter SERIOUS RELATIONSHIPS--because that is my ONLY comments--IMHO, one needs to be introspective when knowing what they can and cannot handle. In nonserious dating or even hanging out makes no difference about breaks or not. Until the man puts a ring on my finger, he has no dictates on what I do nor where I go. That is the price to be in my presence.
If a man doesn't want that from me, then "Thank you", I can move forward...
Taking a break in the relationship to see if someone out there is better? If you seriously want to get married, No--not functional. If you are not serious, then who cares? There is no obligation. The only thing is be careful what you wish for...
