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Originally Posted by FSUZeta
i believe that in the event that a pnm is matchless with all three of her pref. card rankings and would then be eligible as a quota addition, techinically first dibs on her is supposed to go to the smaller of the three chapters that she visited for prefs and ranked on her pref. card.
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That doesn't seem "fair"....because if a pnm "maximizes" her bids even though she feels strongly that she is not a fit to her #3 or even her #2 this still limits her chances of getting her #1 if her #1 is doing QA's I would think. does that make sense???
Even though there are "many stories" of girls who couldn't be happier with where they wound up as they "look back" there are those girls who are not "shallow" in their own personal assessments and just trying to get into the so called campus "best" house, but rather are good at interviewing and reading people and know that they wouldn't "fit" there. (after all the pnm was cut by the other houses she listed as a fit - so she didn't tecnhically bring her prefs down to only 1) This process has the "system" as being "taken care of" instead of the girl and let's try to "improve XYZ" by pushing her there any way we can because she has lot's to offer! And, unfortunately for the pnm who "has lots to offer" (other than A+ looks and top social connections) is typically a good-hearted soul and maximizes her bids because it is the "right thing to do" meaning that she didn't do like others she saw and "kill her interviews" at the parties if she didn't want to be "there"....
I think from all that I have been hearing and been told outright in PM and from girls who have been "placed" in houses of 2nd and 3rd choices just because they maximized their bids -- these girls are not truly happy. Yes, they should give it time, have an open mind and all -- but I'm not so sure I don't agree with considering the "suicide" option....At least doing it that way the pnm knows it's an all or nothing and if it's a nothing can move on to classes with an open, clear head and try again next year instead of being consumed with "trying to make it work".
I know that this is a diversion from my previous posts and I certainly don't want anyone to assume that I am "speaking" for my D as I have spoken to many moms and girls about their placements and this is how "I" feel in my assessment remembering that I'm not greek.