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Originally Posted by RedRover
The daughter of a good friend of mine had a slightly different experience in a similar situation.
The woman was participating in rush at a southern university were rush is rather competitive. She received the maximum amount of invitations through every round and gave deep thought as to which invitations to accept. When it came time to submit her perference card, she decided to withdraw from the process.
I eventually asked her why she made such a decision. She said that while she met a number of young women that she felt that she "bonded" with on individual basis, she felt she made no connection with any of the sororities on a "communal basis."
I asked her if she ever regretted her decision. She said in looking back that she had mixed emotions. Overall she said she had a very positive college experience, but often wondered what she missed by not joining a sorority.
She also noted that she isn't much of a joiner when it comes to organizations and is even less of a joiner when it comes to women's organizations.
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This is why I think the phrase "Go where you feel you belong" is ridiculous! How can you really know that you have a communal bond with a group when you only know ~10 members and their general stats. "Wow...I feel so at home at ABC cuz their colors are black and black...I love black and black!" It's stupid. This also makes people think that if they don't feel that special "home" feeling, then they just don't belong. It takes time to discover the complexities of your entire chapter and the sides of your sisters behind the partying before you can really belong to anything.