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Originally Posted by MaggieXi
Is it considered a "Mismatch" if she listed her 3rd group on her pref card?
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I may be wrong but I don't think it's considered mismatched if the daughter got her 3rd choice. I went to a small school but I think it's the same anywhere. Even though the daughter got her 3rd choice she must have been on or close to sorority 3's top bid list. Mismatched means she wasn't on the top bid list on any of her choices and recieves no bids. Or that's how it used to be. I know CPH has implemented a new system over the last couple of years to cut down on mismatching. But personally I think that if you have stuck around until pref day they obviously like you and you obviously like them since you didn't cut them. So being disappointed won't help the situation. At my school we had a little saying after each rush when some sisters are disappointed that the rushee they wanted went a different sorority or if a rushee is a little unsure of themselves in the decision they made. EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON! Sometimes those rushees/sorority that you thought you wanted, turn out to be the ones you're glad you didn't get. And sometimes you find that the ones you're unsure about turn out to be the best thing for the chapter/you.
So to the mom or any mom for that matter, tell her to give a chance. Meet as many people as she can. I know with a chapter that's about 80 girls much less 150+ not every girl is the same. She'll meet someone she clicks with. Just give it time. My last year in my sorority I was still really getting to know girls. Not the where are you from type stuff, I mean really know them....deepest secrets, bridesmaids type stuff. So just give it a chance...sometimes people surprise you!
