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Originally Posted by augreekmom
She is going to try to see if she can make this work. If it doesn't, does she have any "real" options?
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Everyone has suggested that she give it an honest try, and I agree. It sounds like she's planning on doing that. However, if it doesn't, her only option is to voluntarily remove herself from the group PRIOR to initiation. A lot of sororities initiate within a 6-8 week period, and since you have not identified her chapter, I'll just assume that hers does as well. She should know that nothing is final until she is initiated. Once she is, she may never join another NPC sorority through formal recruitment or COR.
Once she spends more time with her chapter sisters, she just might find that niche of scholar/athletes to bond with. They are out there somewhere (hopefully)!
On the off chance that she doesn't find them, and decides to leave, her only options for joining a sorority will be to go through formal recruitment again next fall or to join through continuous open recruitment (COR) next fall or the spring after that. She cannot pledge another sorority until Fall 2008. Sophomores have a VERY distinct disadvantage at Auburn during formal recruitment, so if she does that, she should make friends with sorority members - and LOTS of them. Even with that it will be difficult.
So those are her only options: stick with it and become a lifetime member of the current sorority or depledge and take her chances as an upperclassman next year. Whatever her decision is, it should be well thought out and not rash. And she shouldn't second-guess herself! Mismatches happen! I see them all the time. So while she is in the minority, she is not a rarity. It sounds like she has her head on straight and will make the right decision for her and her future. If after a few weeks she still isn't feeling right about it, don't go through with it. The sun will still come up the next day.
