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Originally Posted by Drolefille
I can understand that, and would give leeway to a PNM, but not a parent in that regard. I'd expect more maturity from a parent than that, heat of the moment or no. And there was no indication that the comment was said and later retracted. If I were the daughter in that situation, I'd be ten times more pissed off at my mother than the recruitment system at Auburn. (yes, I caught up in the reading)
A) She asked for other people's experiences. Unfortunately, those experiences turned out to be negative ones. I think that some posters went over board with the "OMG AUBURN SUCKS *mass exodus of PNMs* I wouldn't want to be a part of those groups" thing. (Again, from adults  ) That said, it's all part of a discussion about recruitment at a super-competitive well-known school, particularly when many of those involved don't have any experience with SEC recruitment.
I have a feeling that those posters who were ripping on Auburn in general won't be the same ones congratulating the OPs daughter if she gets a bid. And I don't think that it's incongruous to have a negative stories and positive ones in the same thread. Those posters didn't know that their friend/sister/daughter etc was going to get cut when they started posting. |
Drollefille, I know what you're saying about interjecting stories that you don't know will have an unhappy ending and I think it's fair to say that those aren't really good examples. Even in that circumstance, however, I don't think it's unreasonable to expect a newly disappointed PNM/PNM Mamma to refrain from posting a rant or call for support in a thread that's taken a generally happy tone for another PNM. If we had a support thread for disappointments, I think that would be a more appropriate forum and would prevent people with positive stories from having to post disclaimers in order to share theirs or their daughter's happiness -- AND it might be less frustrating for the disappointed party to not be reminded of "what could have been."
That said, I think that instances like momof2's
first post, which had negative overtones, it might be more conducive to the general flow of the recruitment story to encourage the interjecting poster to take up the issue in another thread. Especially since momof2 asked a bunch of questions that were really going to take the thread in a totally separate direction.
And even in this case, and the hijacking of AuburnMom's thread may have not been the best example of this, but I KNOW in the past unhappy PNMs have responded to happy outcomes with stuff like "Glad you went AXiD, I wish I could have gone somewhere. I was dropped from every chapter on campus, etc. etc." I like the idea of having a separate support thread for unhappy/negative/angry/offtopic questions to prevent a complete derailment of an otherwise okay thread.
ETA: I still think generally encouraging disappointed PNMs or whoever to post in a thread other than a happy recruitment thread is a good idea. AuburnMom's now gone on record as saying that she didn't care about the diversions from her story, but I still think it's been a problem in the past and it might be a good thing to consider for the future.